My Thinning Years: Starving the Gay Within

My Thinning Years Starving the Gay Within As a child Jon tried desperately to be his father s version of the all American boy denying his gayness in a futile attempt to earn the love and respect of an abusive man With this he built a deep

  • Title: My Thinning Years: Starving the Gay Within
  • Author: JonDerek Croteau
  • ISBN: 9781616495091
  • Page: 428
  • Format: Paperback
  • As a child, Jon tried desperately to be his father s version of the all American boy, denying his gayness in a futile attempt to earn the love and respect of an abusive man With this he built a deep, internalized homophobia that made him want to disappear rather than live with the truth about himself That denial played out in the forms of anorexia, bulimia, and obsessiveAs a child, Jon tried desperately to be his father s version of the all American boy, denying his gayness in a futile attempt to earn the love and respect of an abusive man With this he built a deep, internalized homophobia that made him want to disappear rather than live with the truth about himself That denial played out in the forms of anorexia, bulimia, and obsessive running, which consumed him as an adolescent and young adult.It wasn t until a grueling yet transformative Outward Bound experience that Jon began to face his sexual identity This exploration continued as he entered college and started the serious work of sorting through years of repressed anger to separate from his father s control and condemnation.My Thinning Years is an inspiring story of courage, creativity, and the will to live and of recreating the definition of family to include friends, relatives, and teachers who support you in realizing your true self A storyteller s job is to help others find their way Show them choices Perhaps avoid pitfalls Jon Derek Croteau s powerful new book is a beacon shining on the puzzle of life Bob Dotson, New York Times bestselling author of American Story, a Lifetime Search for Ordinary People Doing Extraordinary Things NBC News Today Show Correspondent I canceled plans to finish this book, and you will, too Alternately riveting, heartfelt and horrifying, Jon Derek Croteau s descent into anorexia and obsessive running as a means to deny his true self is spellbinding Eric Poole, author of Where s My Wand Jon Derek Croteau writes with unstinting honesty in his memoir MY THINNING YEARS, and courageously explores the harmful effects of bullies long after they ve left the scene But he also reveals the plain fact that the greatest bully we have to win over is often the one within us James Lecesne, Co Founder of THE TREVOR PROJECT A fantastic and harrowing story, told deeply and honestly an emotional read a generous, hopeful book I dearly hope gets into the hands of the many people who face similar hardships and desperately need to hear Jon Derek Croteau s story Randy Harrison, actor, Queer As Folk MY THINNING YEARS is an inspiring story of one man s struggle with anorexia, with sexual identity, and his struggle for selfhood Betsy Lerner, author of Food and Loathing The story of all of us as we come to terms with who we are As I raced through these pages like the runner within them, I was reminded of my own trials It takes courage to tell your story, to come out, to remove yourself from an abusive relationship These pages help usher in our tolerant present and our ever evolving hearts Award winning singer songwriter, Will Dailey MY THINNING YEARS is not just a labor of love but a love letter to those who are struggling silently and suffering deeply with an eating disorder Jon Derek Croteau sheds incredible insight and a heartfelt vision for surviving and thriving in your life Jess Weiner, Author, Strategist and Self Esteem Expert MY THINNING YEARS is an emotional journey through Jon Derek Croteau s struggle with eating disorders and accepting his identity as a gay man In his struggle to accept his sexuality, Croteau attempts to erase his pain through trying to erase himself Men s experiences of anorexia and bulimia are underrepresented in media, medical and personal accounts This is an honest, powerful and raw insight into the self punishing, self harming and consuming force of eating disorders Grace Bowman, author of Thin You do not need an eating disorder, homosexual tendencies, or a terrible parent to love this book Croteau s story is a universal one, and his painful and hard won transformation will both move and inspire you Eric Poole, author of Where s My Wand One Boy s Magical Triumph over Alienation and Shag Carpeting MY THINNING YEARS is a powerful story about overcoming adversity Jon Derek Croteau s courage, honesty, and unfailing passion are sure to both inspire and keep the pages turning Jenni Schaefer, co author of Almost Anorexic, author of Life Without Ed and Goodbye Ed, Hello Me

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    • JonDerek Croteau

      Jon Derek Croteau is on a mission to make a difference, a mission he has pursued since his childhood He uses every moment to learn about the world in order to contribute to those who are in need, disenfranchised, or impacted by discrimination He is a champion of equal rights and effective leadership This has led him to advocate, teach, write, advise and support people, places, and ideas that enhance the lives of others As a husband, brother, uncle, and friend, he shares his love, life and mission with his family and friends from whom he draws support and inspiration.Jon is a senior partner at a global leadership consultancy, an expert in leadership solutions for major institutions, and a respected author.



    879 thoughts on “My Thinning Years: Starving the Gay Within

    • Gentle reminder that eating disorders can affect anyone, regardless of gender, sex, sexual orientation, race, socioeconomic status, etc. I give huge props to Jon Derek Croteau for sharing his struggle with anorexia and obsessive exercise. I hope that through his vulnerability other men will feel comfortable opening up about their own experiences with eating disorders so they can seek the help they need.Croteau writes with compelling vulnerability in My Thinning Years. He details how he dealt wit [...]


    • Going into it, I knew this was going to be a hard book for me to read. I think I even said no a few times, before finally agreeing to review the book. And now that I'm sitting down, in front of my computer, typing up my review, part of me is wishing that I had gone ahead with my first instinct. This was a hard book to read, it brought a lot of long buried emotions to the forefront, and it's left me feeling a little drained. At the end of the day though, I'm glad I took the time to read it. It wa [...]


    • My Thinning Years is a well written and engaging memoir. As a little boy Jon Derek Croteau liked to play dress up and hang out with the girls. He was always a disappointment to his atheletics-obsessed father who berated him for being unmanly. His mother was sympathetic and affectionate, but in the early years of his life didn't do much to run interference between her youngest son and her abusive husband. As a young boy Croteau comes to see that confiding in his mother sometimes exacerbates tensi [...]


    • It's rare I tell someone they must read a book. If it's a good book I'll say you should read it. My Thinning Years - Starving the Gay Within by Jon Derek Croteau is a book you must read. In my opinion this is not a gay man's memoir about an eating disorder. It's a MANual. I started to read Jon's book, then I began to study it. You will learn many things. How a toxic, unloving parent can destroy a child's dreams, cause irreparable damage, and inflict emotional and physical pain that propels the c [...]


    • There are some books that I wish didn't need to be written. I wouldn't wish the pain of an eating disorder on my worst enemy. Growing up gay in a homophobic environment does more damage to a young person's soul than words can express. No child should ever live in fear of a parent. I hope and pray for the day when such things no longer exist. But hope and prayer are not enough. It will take courage, action, and speaking the truth out loud. It will take people like Mr. Croteau: people who will be [...]


    • What an experience, this book enveloped me entirely my mind and my body suffered right along with him. It also allows you to see an insecure and sensitive man, they do exist! I felt for him so hard, even having to wipe the tears streaming down my face. I believe this book could honestly help people with a plethora of life's difficulties. It's so powerful and heartfelt that I think this could change a person who does not believe that a person I is born gay. God plays such an omnipresent force in [...]


    • 4.5 Stars'My Thinning Years: Starving the Gay Within' is the incredibly emotional and powerful memoir of the author's struggle with suppressing his sexual identity along the problems he developed as forms of denial - eating disorders, obsessive exercising, and an intense homophobia. I can honestly say that there wasn't one single part of this memoir that didn't move me in some way. The author writes with an honesty so blunt and open - by the end of the book I felt as though I knew him on a perso [...]


    • Like The War on Women in Israel, I expected this book to be frustrating and depressing to read. Fortunately, I was wrong once again. It was a difficult read and my heart ached for Jon as I read about his abusive childhood, but I also couldn't set this book down. I think it helped that I knew Jon was writing this book from a better place in his life and I wanted to read as quickly as possible to get to the point where things worked out. The physical abuse also came across as less damaging then t [...]


    • This book was brutally honest. I can not remember when so much heat was in the kitchen per say in any other book, like there was with this family! His family was so dysfunctional and he always felt the need to be the protector. I will never forget this book it will be on my heart forever. This is a book that stays with you for years to come. I find myself thinking back on parts of his life and just imagining the drama that he went through. He really brought the truth to the center of eating diso [...]


    • The moment I started reading this amazing and well written memoir, I couldn't put the book down. Amidst my extremely packed schedule, i managed to find packets of time and a couple of hours before I sleep to read this amazing memoir. It was a heart wrenching yet love filled experience that the writer brings across with regards to his multiple interlinked struggles and also his revelations and also the process of self-discovery. It had been an amazing read for an amateur reader myself (first few [...]


    • Wow! This is such a beautiful extraordinary autobiography! Reading this help gave me a perspective of Jon's life and accepting his homosexuality. Very emotional and detail. I can't say I will fully understand how homosexual people grow up and learn to accept their sexuality. This is a great viewing of how one faces people especially his father who reject his sexuality, simultaneously finding those who love him unconditionally for who he is.Best book I have read so far for the past couple years! [...]


    • The book is heartbreaking because of what the author went through. Nobody should have to feel completely unloved and unaccepted by a parent, themselves or anyone else. The book could also be triggering to those who are in active or early recovery stages of an eating disorder so should be read with caution (and maybe with a friend/confidante/support person) so focus isn't placed on the eating disorder side of things but more on the injustices he experienced that lead to this and the power it take [...]


    • Jon shares his powerful coming of age story as he learns to accept himself. This book is a must read for anyone who works with children and adolescents, as it sheds light on identity issues and powerful messages teenagers absorb from their families, friends and larger community. This memoir is about more than understanding one's sexual identity. It is about finding the courage to accept one's self and live life fully.


    • I received this book for free at the ALA conference in Las Vegas. I knew I was going to like this book when I got it. I love memoirs (and even fiction) that deal with issues like suicide, eating disorders, drug use, etc. This book is really emotional. Be prepared to deal with a lot of feelings while reading this. This was a great book. See all of my other thoughts on October 12 at vivacioushobo


    • This book simply goes on for too long with such a hasty plot. It seems like some disgusting conjuring of Jon's sudden current interest. It breaks all the fundamentals of writing and in some cases, that is fine. But this fucking Croteau thing does it oh so horrendously. Homophobia seems plausible with the existence of this thing.


    • I read much of this book on a couple of flightsd both times found myself startled by the landing because I was so wrapped up in the reading! I am so glad the author has chosen to share his story, as I think it is an important one for people to know (and, it seems, an important story for him to tell as well).


    • I didn't know what to expect when I picked up this book, but I was very moved my Jon's story. You don't have to be gay or to have suffered with anorexia to identify with his journey. He does an amazing job showing the nuances of relationships and growing up.






    • Heartrending and beautifully written memoir about a man's journey to and from self-destruction via relentless exercise and anorexia as a result of internalized homosexuality.


    • Haven't cried that hard while reading a book in a very long time. Pretty sure I stained multiple pages with my tears.



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